Friends are the Problem

Friends are the Problem

Everyone has a suggestion or a comment about how or why I’m single.  Some people say I need to “lower my standards”, some say that “I need to do online dating”, some say that I need to “get out more”.  As much as I might agree that some of these are true, I find it interesting that people who know very little about me seem to think that they can “fix” my single status.  In the end I have lowered my standards, to an extent of course.  I don’t have an exact grocery list of items that I expect a potential date to have.  On the other hand, many people don’t know that I am actually turned down or broken up with more than the opposite.  I go on dates, I go on a lot of dates.  I have fun and interesting conversations.  Sometimes this leads to a second date, but in the end it is typically the guy who doesn’t call back or who decides to end it.  Am I doing something wrong?  Perhaps, but who’s to say what is right and what is wrong when it pertains to my life and my future? Why would I want to fight for those guys who simply weren’t interested enough to even take the time to get to know me?  Is this wrong?

In the end what I’ve determined as my main problem….. is my friends, or rather my lack of friends.  I’ve never been one to have a lot of friends, or one who is super social.  This is not to say that I don’t have friends, I have some amazing people in my life, many of which I call friends, but in the end they all have their own lives, and I have mine.  My life consists of me and my cat.  I go to work, where I have some amazing coworkers, many of which I call friends, but who are all very different than me.  I am at least 10 years younger than most of my work friends.  So, you can imagine that their life position is much different than mine.  We work together, and some of us do visit and get together outside of work, but in the end they have families or spouses who take their main priority…. and I have my cat.

How does one at 36 make new friends who are willing and interested to go out and do things that I’m interested in when I truly hav