I’ve always been someone who has done my own thing… walked to the beat of my own drum, but at the same time, I’ve never been one to share those things openly. I’ve had relationships… good and bad… I’ve traveled a lot… mostly good… I’ve moved out and live on my own… very good…I enjoy sitting in coffee shops reading, or walking through parks…. I’ve always been a very shy person, and I’ve always kept a lot to myself. I’m not sure if it’s the way I was raised, or just the result of things that I’ve been through, or just who I was made to be? But, it’s always been hard for me to reach out.
Being single for so long, I’ve had to do a lot of things on my own. Sometimes I don’t know if it’s the experiences that I’ve had, the lessons I’ve been taught, or just who I am… but I often feel like I see things differently than others. I’ll be honest, Being single is tough…But it’s not impossible. I think it’s easier than being with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. The tough part… is when you meet someone that you want to be with, and they have no interest in being with you… but being single, paying my bills, cleaning my house, making my own decisions, sleeping alone… all that… that’s not tough. However, I also can’t blame someone or say they’re a terrible person just because they don’t want to be with me. If a person isn’t interested in me…. they’re not interested in me, there is nothing about that one thing that makes this person bad or terrible just because we can’t live happily ever after. I can in fact respect this person for his decision and wish him the best finding what he truly deserves. So many are ready to condemn or take things personally when in fact… it’s just not meant to be.
I started writing this blog so that I could express feelings that I had no one else to share with. But… I kind of feel like writing it now is to help people understand that single is not a syndrome, there is nothing wrong with it, and people should not feel guilty or pressured if they aren’t in a significant relationship. As a result of this, I’m going to share what I’m doing and how I’m getting through it on my own.
So… I’ve started a new venture. A life that I want to put my heart and soul into… a life that will help people, but the problem is that being single, the lack of network and support that one would normally have in a relationship is lacking. Does that make it impossible…. no, but I see people doing similar things with networks of people… again… not only a significant other… but also friends…and I’m afraid this is something I’m lacking.. In this venture I have already gained one thing… To be able to be in business on your own and truly connect with people around you…. you must be true…. you must be authentic. I know a lot of people talk about being authentic, and some may think that they are being authentic, but this opportunity has helped me get closer to being my true authentic self than I have been. I’ve had to reach deep down inside of me and think about what is really in my heart. If I can’t do that, I can’t sell myself… and I can’t truly be myself…. which of course would not attract others to want to do business with me.
Authenticity is a tough one. It’s much easier to hide behind a mask of social media, or to just hide in general, rather than to put yourself out there for people to pick on. However… if you are truly being yourself, it shouldn’t matter what other people think. It shouldn’t matter how people react. If you are truly being your true authentic self, you are going to attract the people who relate to who you truly are. I’m hoping this goes for business, friends… and potential significant others.